Coventry woman uses TikTok to talk about her grief after her wife’s death

“I don’t know anyone else of my age is married … it doesn’t matter married and widower.”

Growing up in Birmingham, Tania Pomroy moved to Coventry to study at the university. When he arrived at the student’s halls, he had no idea of ​​the girl in the next room, Charlotte Thomas, one day he would become his wife.

They married on September 23, 2023, exactly six years after the day with them.

But five months later, in February 2024, Charlotte died, leaving Tania a widow at age 24.

“I feel that you are never with many young widows, so I felt really isolated at the beginning,” he said.

Tania had never experienced a complaint in this way and said she felt that her memory of that time had cleaned her leg.

“At first I was the son of going to the autopilot and then you have all the secondary losses of relationships with other people,” he said.

“I had to leave my job.

“When you lose your person, it’s not just the person you lose, it’s yourself and everything you make, you, in the process.”

But there was a small light in the dark for her: make videos and publish them online.

She began to make YouTube videos in 2020 and, after the launch of Tiktok, began publishing similar content there.

In the week after Charlotte died, he published a video sharing the news, with images of them in their wedding dresses.

To date, it has more than 7.8 million Views

“I think that for me it was almost the only part of my life that I was a son of the normal … I guess that’s why I picked up the camera and kept doing that,” Tania said.

“I remember seeing the answer and having been like:” Oh my God, look at all these comments. “

“I only published it for friends and family … I only had a few thousand followers.”

Around the following year, Tania continued to publish in the application, changing much of its content to share your pain and talk about your mental health.

Her followers grew and she said that many related to her experience.

“I have built a little community from other afflicted there that I really find so healthy in some way,” he said.

“Real shows you that you are not alone; there are other people out there who are 24 years old and widows, it is not just you.”

He added that the support had helped her greatly with her mourning trip.

“I was welcome with my arms so open and it is so pleasant now that I have created a space where I can welcome people with open arms,” ​​he said.

“If something positive has come out of this, then that is definitely one of those things.”

More than a year since his wife died, Tania, now 25 years old, began to incorporate her hobbies and interests in her content for her almost 200,000 followers.

Backpacks are used in Thailand in January, a trip that Charlotte wanted to do.

“She would be so surprised that she has done it … but she would also be very proud to be coming out and see the world and, hopefully, share a little of that with her … we will have a lot to understand,” he said.

Tania said that publishing about Charlotte helped keep her memory alive.

“I always called her my sun because she was the warmest person and had the friendliest heart; she was so adventurous and made life so funny and exciting and made you happy to live,” he added.

Looking towards the future, he said he wanted to raise awareness about complaint and mental health, as well as share his life.

“A widow is a widow, no matter if you are 25 or you are 75 years old,” he said.

“Everyone will experience pain at some point, so if we talk more about that and it is a little less taboo, then we will realize that we will all be in the same ship, and we can help and support each mind.”

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