Miskin mum’s unique friendship with nurse who held her dying son

Rhian Mannings and Andrea Evans have been the best friends for 13 years, but the circumstances that joined them could not be more tragic.

Nurse Andrea was the last person to hold the one -year -old son of Rhian, George, after dying of pneumonia.

“Leaving a hospital without his son is the most unnatural as a father who will have to do,” Rhian said.

“But leaving George in his arms made him so small, a little easier because you knew someone really cared.”

After George’s death, Rhian and her husband Paul returned home unable to make sense of their seismic loss.

Meanwhile, Andrea continued her turn, taking care of other patients.

WARNING: This article contains references to suicide

Rhian and Andrea are sharing their history to shed light on the hidden emotional cost that the death of a child can have in professionals, from doctors and nurses to police officers, firefighters and teachers.

George had been playing happily with his brother and sister before he fell suddenly, just a few days after his first birthday in 2012.

He was urgently taken to the Royal Glamorgan Hospital in Talbot Green, Rhondda Cynon Taf, and was treated by a number of personnel, including Andrea.

In addition to taking care of George, Andrea was an answer to keep her parents distressed about what was happening.

Now, 13 years later, Andrea’s memories that night have not faded.

“I remember seeing Rhian and Paul arrive and simply complete anguished,” said Andrea by Talbot Green.

“For me I was doing enough, it was a saying enough, I was explaining enough. In my head I was panic about the ways in which I could improve this, I thought it was a good situation,” he said.

The team spent a lot of time working in George until Vally Andrea received a wink to the consultant.

“It was classified or ‘obtaining Rhi and Paul here, we must argue that he is because these will be his last moments,” he said.

Andrea stayed with the final moments of Rhian and Paul Duration George and was with them when they spent a while with him later, in addition to staying with George once they abandoned the hospital.

Andrea then continued the rest of his turn.

“You are exhausted for those two hours … but the department is busy and other people continue to arrive and are not aware of what happened and must be treated exactly in the same way and, therefore, you don’t have time,” Say de Say -there is no.

George’s death had impacted her.

“This particular situation was too close to comfort really,” he said.

Like Rhian, Andrea was also a mother of three.

He had a six -month -old baby at home and two other children of an age similar to Rhian’s older children.

“He definitely hit home … You just want to get home at that time and hold your own children,” he said.

Meanwhile, Rhian and her husband Paul were in agony, facing what seemed an insurmountable complaint.

They had returned home that event with their other two children asleep and buzzing to what had happened.

George’s birthday cards were still awake.

In the days that followed, Rhian was horrified that the only commitment support support had sacrificed his leg was a brochure with a list of phone numbers.

“He has an incredible staff in the hospital that does everything possible, but when he leaves, there is nothing there to pick it up or take care of him or answer his questions,” Miskin said, Rhondda Cynon Taf.

Paul was fighting to face and began to blame himself for George’s death.

“He felt we should have tasks in the car instead of waiting for the ambulance,” Rhian said.

“Hey, he felt that, as a dad, he failed our family, which is really a heart.”

They talked about Andrea often.

“Paul and I call her our angel,” he said.

Five days after George’s death, Rhian faced the unthinkable when her husband Paul Toke toke her own life.

He had gone driving to clear his head, but could not return.

Just when Rhian was thinking of calling the police, two officers appeared to tell him that he was dead.

“I really think we failed and that is what led to Paul’s death,” Rhian said.

“No one called ours and offered us any support from any type of agency or professional organism and that is really difficult to live.”

Andrea learned of Paul’s death after arriving at work for a night shift.

“It was devastating because I thought I should have done something better,” he said.

“What happens if you had said something different, could I have helped more?”

Observing, while regretting her husband and children, Rhian found himself thinking about Andrea.

“I wanted to verify that it was fine,” Rhian said.

“But also now I didn’t have Paul, there was only another person who was there that event with me, and that was her.”

Rhian decided to leave a rose and letter at Andrea’s door.

Andrea replied and the couple with Up for Coffee.

“I think it was perhaps a bit uncomfortable at the beginning,” Andrea admitted.

She said she didn’t know what Rhian expected the meeting and that she was worried about saying the wrong.

“I don’t know what I expected,” Rhian admitted.

“But you were the last person to hold my little son … you with Paul.”

Andrea moved and surprised that Rhian was worried about her.

After that initial meeting of the couple, who only lives a few miles of separation, hitting each other.

A friendship slowly began to form.

They are not made or talk about the night George died, but Rhian has a bone capable of reassuring Andrea that he could not have done more to support Paul.

“If I had to have told you that, you could still live with that,” Rhian said.

Andrea agreed: “Yes, I would still be carrying that.”

Rhian established his own beneficial organization called 2Wish, which covers Wales and the border counties of England, and offers support to anyone who has experienced the sudden and unexpected death of a young child or adult.

Professionals such as Andrea can self -refere and receive a variety of support, including information sessions, advice and complementary therapies.

The Welsh government also finances a service called Canopi, which sacrifices support for mental health for social care and NHS staff in Wales.

Over the years, Rhian has cornered Andrea in many fundraising challenges for her beneficial organization.

Now Andrea hopes to encourage other professionals to consider seeking support.

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“Duration in my years in A&E you learn to compartmentalize and try to leave work at work, that is built over the years and your boxes begin to overflow a little, which is when it becomes stressful and complicated, and if you don’t think about a problem, soon,” said Andtue, “says enouh,” he said enough, “he says enough,” “soon.” “

She said it was “very good” to take the time to properly reflect on the difficult situations that arise at work.

Rhian said the trauma of his first meeting had grown a “really lovely and honest relationship.”

“Our children are kind, we just returned on vacation together, we have moved away many times together, our husbands are happy and get along very well,” he said.

She also goes to Andrea for fashion advice.

“We are honest friends, if I need advice on what to use, she is the one I go because she will tell me directly,” he laughed.

Andrea said she had a pleasant leg to see her children grow together.

“We say that it would have a pleasant bone to have the six and we talk a lot about George,” he said.

Rhian will always be grateful to Andrea.

“I can never thank him for what he did that night,” he said.

“And I know that Paul would do it too.”

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